What Does Your Gender Mean to You?

Wilhelmina Wang wants to know what gender means to me. In fact, she wants to know what it means to all of us and to add incentive, she’s made it a contest with some lovely prizes. The full details are below. Here is my response:

From Wikipedia:  The World Health Organization (WHO), for example, uses “gender” to refer to “the socially constructed roles, behaviors, activities, and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women“

I am female and have never identified as male. Though, I also believe that there is a spectrum of female roles, behaviors, activities and attributes. At times I’ve felt this to be more akin to how stereotypical a person is in their gender. In many ways I am not your typical woman, yet, that doesn’t mean that makes me more masculine. The absence of an ultra feminne stereotype does not make a male. It just makes me less of a frou-frou girl, if you get my drift. Perhaps it’s better to sum it up in I am not/I am.

I am not:

• ultra-feminine in the stereotypical way, I don’t wear skirts much, care for lots of make up or fashion in the way that many girly-girls do
• a lover of shopping, shoes, pink, frills, romance novels, or any of a billion other supposed “female” characteristics
• a woman who sought with vigor to be a mother in order to feel fulfilled
• a tomboy or boy-ish in any way, except for my humor sometimes and my ability to be “one of the guys” (i.e. not-prudish)
• afraid of power tools, fixing things, bugs, dirt, camping or other things in the stereotypical “male” domain

I am:

• feminine without trying to be
• logical, rational, analytical and in control of my emotions; my hormone cycles don’t appear to effect this
• a mother who encourages her daughter to be independent and stays neutral on pink as a color option (her fave color is blue)
• lucky to have had incredible female role models in my life who are smart, funny and damned good at what they do. I don’t know/care if they are “pretty”, but to me they are all beautiful because of their energy.
• independent, strong, assertive, kind, caring, creative and like my role models, smart, funny and damned good at what I do.
• a good wife to my husband; we share in everything equally.
• In fact, equality is incredibly important to me – whether in a marriage, or other family roles, between genders everywhere, and especially in the workforce and within society at large. The earnings gap makes me crazy. Paying more at the dry cleaners and hairdresser makes me livid. Paying sales tax on tampons because they’re considered “luxury items” makes me scream.

Have I ever identified as male? No, I don’t think so. Sexually, I’ve never wanted a penis nor to fuck somebody with a strap or to pack. (Though, I am always open to the idea that sexuality is an evolution. So, who knows? Perhaps that will change in the future.) The idea of having a penis seems alien and I’ve mentioned on occasion how if I had one it would just get in the way. I also don’t think I would like having such a visual sign of arousal.

Conversely, I also am not overly attracted to women sexually. There have been the odd occasion where I did entertain the idea of sex with another woman, and perhaps in the future might act on those ideas. But, I’m not driven by them. Overwhelmingly, I am attracted to men.

Ultimately, I love being female and all the complexities that that entails. I am completely at ease with being MY type of female on the spectrum. Though, I do admit that sometimes I have difficulty relating to those on either end of that spectrum. But I remain open to understanding and don’t pass judgment. The world needs diversity. And acceptance. And equality. Within, and outside of, whatever gender you happen to be.

 

Here are the contest details:

What does your gender mean to YOU?

This might seem like too much of a queer-centric contest, but even if you don’t play with your gender necessarily, I’m sure you still have feelings about your gender.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my own gender more, and while appear mostly feminine, I often wish that I could wake up and just pick whatever gender I wanted to be that day, and be it. Soon I’m going to be doing a series of posts/HNTs exploring my own gender(fucking), and I’m really looking forward to reading about other people’s takes on gender. I thought combining a shout out for feedback with a contest would be cool.

Prizes:

I’m not giving away as much as I was for my last contest, but the prizes are still pretty sweet:

1. A Femblossom Heat from Emotional Bliss!

Not only does this vibrator vibrate, it heats up, matching the speed and frequency of the vibrations. After you use it, the Femblossom also secretes an antibacterial agent which means you can clean it with a quick wipe.

Specs: variable speeds + frequency, curved to fit the body, lats from 90-240 minutes, heats up + self-cleaning.

2. A Tantus Ryder!

Specs: anal plug, silicone, 4.1″ length and 1.5″ diameter.

How to Enter:

To enter, you need to do two things:

1. Leave a comment on this post in response to the question: What does your gender mean to you?
2. Spread the word about the contest! Either reblog or retweet. Or both, if you wish. If you’re reblogging, exact text would be best (don’t hotlink to the images, though), and you can add your own words to it. Link to the blog post in a comment. You can only do this a minimum of once. If you’re retweeting, do so at least once and a maximum of ten times, and use the following text: RT @wilhelminawang What does your gender mean to you? Answer and win a Femblossom Heat & TantusRyder! http://bit.ly/LOBoZ
3. (Optional) Subscribe to my RSS feed and let me know in your comment that you have

Each comment, reblog and retweet will earn you one “entry” into the contest, and after all the entries are in I’ll use a randomizer to select the winner Yep, only one winner this time.

Deadline to enter: November 21st, midnight, EST.

Green Sex Get Mainstream Attention

I was poking around Twitter this morning and saw Ethan Imboden (@Imboden), the founder of Jimmyjane, mentioned that they’d received a shout-out in the October 26th issue of Time magazine.

The article entitled “Sex and the Eco-City: Getting It On Is Getting Greener“ mentions Jimmyjane and other sex toy companies that have green offerings. And it highlights the Catholic Church’s efforts to re-package Natural Family Planning (a.k.a. the rhythm method) and market it as “green” and “organic.”

“At a time when Americans are just getting used to prime-time ads for Trojan and K-Y, eco-consumers are learning that most of the personal lubricants in the U.S.–drugstores sold $82 million worth of them last year–contain chemicals found in oven cleaner and antifreeze,” reports author Kathleen Kingsbury.

Give it a read if the topic’s of interest.

Ultimate Sex Toy Manufacturer’s List

I saw this back in September, but forgot about it. As she’s just updated it, it’s time to say Wowza! That Toy Chick has gone and created a Massive Manufacturers List, complete with links (where able).  She’s built the list concentrating on the lesser known manufacturers, because the big guys “get more than enough exposure!” The manufacturers’ list is categorized by the primary material or function the item serves.

So if you’re looking for something in ceramic, stone, glass, metal, silicone, wood or leather, then this is a great place to start. Need functional items like sex toy storage, positioning pieces, condoms or lubes? Yup, she’s got ‘em listed. From special interest items like vegan friendly BDSM to the mass-production toy manufacturers, That Toy Chick has done her exhaustive best to include them.

Pop on over and  have a look. See a quality manufacturer missing? Leave her a comment and help her to grow this amazing list of sex toy manufacturers to make it an even better resource for everyone.

Thanks That Toy Chick for your work on this!

A Few Moments at the Office

A few weeks back I told you about Wilhelmina Wang’s first anniversary contest for her blog Heatbreak Nymphomania where the challenge was to write about a first. Although, I didn’t win (check out the great stories from Lola Batling, Purple Foxglove and Alice Coquelicot who did), I thought I’d post my entry here, just the same. Some firsts are worth revisiting.

A Few Moments at the Office

It was a day filled with sexual tension. The sparks between us didn’t have far to arc in the tiny room we shared as an office. Swiveling my chair around, he leaned forward and kissed me hard. The heat between us exploded and soon we were on our feet, chairs rolling haphazardly out of the way, bodies tight against each other, his hand down the front of my pants, probing. “Get those off, “ he said as he shoved my keyboard and mouse out of the way. He extended the small sliding shelf extensions on either side of my desktop, the ones meant to give a little more room to lie out papers, or place a telephone. I’d had the desk for six years and had never noticed it’s great potential for sex before.

He patted the desktop and I hopped up. Placing each foot on the extensions, my knees were up and legs spread wide.  Reaching behind me, he slid me forward so that my ass was teetering off the edge of the desk. Running two fingers up my slit, he slid them into my very wet pussy. I wrapped my arms around his neck and kissed him, our tongues entwined, our lust intense, the pace of our breathing quick.

Letting his pants drop to the floor, his cock bobbed with his pulse as he put on a condom. The height of the desk was perfect as he entered me. With long slow strokes the angle of my pelvis was perfect to receive him, and I could feel his cock filling me up over and over again. I moaned my pleasure loudly and dug my fingers into his shoulder blades, his speed increasing. I could feel my orgasm coming quickly, my muscles tightening around his cock. Reaching down, he rubbed my clit and buried himself deep within me as he came hard. I screamed out as his touch pushed me over the edge of an intense orgasm. My whole body tightened and clenched him, hands clawing at his back, my head tucked down, teeth bearing down on his shoulder. And, in that moment, there was an unmistakable sound. A splash hit the wooden floor below me.

We froze like that for some moments, locked in each other’s bodies. I could feel my pussy dripping, the space between our bodies unusually slick. He pulled back and checked the condom. “What the fuck was that?” I asked incredulously. “It appears you’ve squirted.” I looked down and on the floor below was a puddle. “What? But, I don’t do that!” He looked at me with a smile and replied, “Well, apparently you DO.”

Sugasm #173

HNT courtesy of Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #174? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Dressing Room Voyeur
“I caught his gaze this time, on purpose.”

It’s Always the Quiet Ones…
“So grabbing her hips, I pulled her in for a kiss.”

Behind Closed Doors
“Others had watched, she beat me, brought me to tears, held me and then began to untie me.”

Sugasm Editor
The Mouse Drama

Editor’s Choice
Let the Rain Come

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

News, Reviews & Interviews
Book Review: Anal Pleasure and Health
Champion
Earth Angel podcast review – the first 100% green sex toy!
LELO Gigi
Lelo Gigi Made Me A Very Happy Girl!

Thoughts on Sex & Relationships
Dating Options 101: Whatchagot
Finally, my thoughts on marriage equality
I hate online dating period

BDSM & Fetish
Being Bendy, Beaten and Punished
Make Me Want It
Male Chastity Devices
Miss Susan, Nick B and Montreal Fetish Weekend
Moments
The One I Miss the Most
Sissy Hubby
Spanking Fake
Tuesday Night – The First Time

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
2 Pretty maids severely spanked
Aimee Addison
Deep cutting cane stripes
Hal-Nekkid Anniversary pt2
Huge wobbly buttocks
Kelly Brook in Sexy Lingerie
Sunflowers part III
Take Comfort

Sex Advice
Can a Woman Feel When a Man Ejaculates Inside Her?
How To Fuck in Public or Recession Era Hook-up Spots

Erotic Writing & Experiences
The Accidental Orgy
Blowjobs and Beautiful People
The Conclusion of the Duchess’s Adventure
Cottage Country part 1
Countdown. Confession #340
Dance the Night Away, Part 2
Darklady’s Detention Hall (an Event Report)
Flasher: Regrets
Glow
HNT: The Gift
Keys
Lessons Learned (1/2)
Red And Blue Make…
Rub Me Up The Right Way
She Deserves Better
The Succubus Wakes
Voicemail
Working.

Erotic Poetry
Her Warmth
Licking The Beatles

What Was Your First?

Wilhelmina Wang is holding a one year anniversary contest over at her blog, Heartbreak Nymphomania. She wants you to send her a story of a first, as she explains:

To enter the contest, I want you to tell me a story about the first time you did something that made you smoulder with desire, or bubble with joy. Anything involving sex/sexuality/general hottness. Like:

- your first really good kiss
- fulfilling a sex fantasy
- finding a dress/cologne/packing cock/something that made you feel drop-dead gorgeous
- first time squirting…

She will post the entries on her blog for the community to vote on. And she’s assembled three amazing prizes with products from Tantus, LELO, Njoy, Intimate Organics, Kinklab and Tristan Taormino.

I’ve submitted my entry that on first appearance could be about the first time I had sex on my desk. But, I assure you, it’s much more than that. Hopefully it will be picked to enter the judging round and you can read about it for yourselves.

I encourage everyone to enter Wilhelmina’s contest. But do it right away! The deadline is today at 11:59 PST.

Glow

My eyes fluttered open and I saw darkness. I could hear people talking on the sidewalk as they passed just 3 feet from the open window. My ears were ringing and a thin sheen of sweat covered my body. Slowly, I released my death grip on the sheets I’d clawed and grasped, having balled them up and squeezed them tight against my chest. I opened my jaw and turned my head, releasing the pillow from my teeth. It muffled my screams from passers-by as best as it could when I crested over an intense and long-lasting G-spot orgasm. Still breathing heavily, I felt his hand pull away from between my legs. My body twitched and shuddered as he withdrew the still-pulsing vibe. Rolling from my side to my back, I felt the cold leather paddle beneath me, the bed wet from my sex. My ass felt hot.

Stretching my arms above my head, I let my hands hang off the side of the bed, the metal snap connectors jangling and straining against the D-rings of the heavy leather cuffs. My breathing slowed and I let out a long, slow exhale while I stretched my legs up the wall and crossed my ankles. I felt his warm hand travel the length of my leg, across my hip and come to a rest on my right breast, kneading it and gently tugging at the nipple. I moaned and arched into his touch. He shifted and came in close to my ear whispering, “You’re such a good little fuck toy. But, it’s time you got back to work.” He pulled the blindfold up and over my head, leaving me squinting, as the mid-afternoon sun washed over our bed.

HNT #8

(Thanks to Vixen and Sugasm for  including this post in Sugasm #173)

Play along with Half-Nekkid Thursday at Osbasso’s and The Other HNT.

Where Are All The Male Toy Reviewers?

This week I added a new category to my blogroll. Toy With Me! is for bloggers who are primarily (not necessarily exclusively) sex toy reviewers.

While researching review blogs, I discovered that there are hardly any men reviewing toys. With all the new male toys on the market these days, and the increase in the ones from quality manufacturers like LELO, Tantus, Aneros and Tenga, I wondered, what gives? So I posed this question a few nights ago on Twitter:

I know of only one man (@namelesschaos) doing sex toy reviews. Any oher fellas out there doing them with regularity?

The discussions  it sparked were fascinating. Below, I’ve posted four distinct redacted conversations between myself and a terrific cross section of kinky Twitter. (Please forgive me if I applied a description to you that doesn’t fit your own. Feel free to correct me in the comments.)

• @docstrange (erotic writer) @koruptid (erotic photographer) @SweetSpiced (kinky blogger) @OnxStSyr (Poly blogger)
• @sylvanus @mydesire (long-time sex bloggers)
• @MetisBlack (President, Tantus, Inc.)
• @MissKissThis (Toy Reviewer)
  

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Is the lack of male reviewers because  men just aren’t into toys as much as women? Do straight men feel that their toys have no place in couples play? Or are they just not interested enough in toys to bother writing about them?

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RavenQuince I know of only one man (@namelesschaos) doing sex toy reviews. Any oher fellas out there doing them with regularity?

@docstrange @koruptid @SweetSpiced @OnxStSyr

docstrange @RavenQuince we like women ;P. Toys just can’t compare.

RavenQuince @docstrange Well, there are just so many male toys on the market now, I’m surprised there aren’t more male reviewers.

docstrange @RavenQuince such as?

RavenQuince @docstrange Aneros line, Tantus, Fleshlight, Tenga sleeves.+cock rings, cock locks, condoms, lube etc. SO much to be said from a male view

docstrange @RavenQuince I find the fleshlight to be downright creepy. I’m not the target market, lol.

RavenQuince @docstrange Yes, well, I think Real Dolls are creepy. What about prostate toys? Or, say, a vibrating cock ring – like Lelo Bo?

docstrange @RavenQuince the quality of materials on those seems decent.

RavenQuince @docstrange Are you referring to Real Dolls? Which materials?

docstrange @RavenQuince true, real dolls are creepy, but that represents maybe a couple of thousand units they’ve sold?

docstrange @RavenQuince sorry, I mean the lelo seems decent.

koruptid @ravenquince @docstrange mmm, nice conversation to see on twitter after a some good sex and bondage

RavenQuince @koruptid Do you know of any male sex toy reviewers? I’m curious about why there are so few considering all the new male toys out now.

docstrange @koruptid I told her it is because we like ladies, lol.

RavenQuince @docstrange Do you use toys for your own pleasure? Lelo is certainly excellent quality. As is Tantus and Aneros

koruptid @ravenquince can’t say I’ve met any… (hopes some toy companies are listening) test subject ahoy!

koruptid @ravenquince hm, personally i don’t have too much need… more partner oriented. Though, blatant curiosity could drive me

docstrange @RavenQuince no, they don’t interest me at all to be honest. Aside from lubes and warming fluids.

docstrange @koruptid I like that term, ‘partner oriented’

koruptid @docstrange is it just me or are most male sex toys oriented towards guy who are partnerless?

RavenQuince @koruptid @docstrange I’m fascinated that there’s no interest in sex toys for men (well from you two, anyway). Enhance couple sex+intimacy?

koruptid @docstrange nice way of saying that I prefer it when they cum first, multiple times, and often.

koruptid @ravenquince oh, I love using any toy to enhance her pleasure… I just don’t have any functional need to increase mine.

SweetSpiced @RavenQuince @docstrange you know, I wonder how many guys feel like that. And is it a case of tried and didn’t like, or just not tried.

RavenQuince @koruptid @docstrange Um, you can use a prostate stimulator with your partner. Cock ring too. Paddle/flogger/crop..

koruptid @ravenquince though, you could argue that the rope was entirely for me… in which case you could say that I do

docstrange @RavenQuince sure, with womens toys.

koruptid @ravenquince cock ring, check. double with vibe, check. I think the main point is, nothing specifically for me and me alone.

docstrange @SweetSpiced I don’t know, the fleshlight seems to be selling though it is a drop in the bucket compared to womens toy market.

RavenQuince @SweetSpiced Is it a control thing? To have a toy used on you requires giving yourself over. Possibly some men would rather not go there.

SweetSpiced @docstrange But like @RavenQuince said, there are so many other options. Do most guys only want the basic hole to fill? hope I don’t offend

SweetSpiced @RavenQuince Or – ego? I don’t need a toy to get off?

RavenQuince @SweetSpiced Not ego. I just don’t think that (most straight) men are conditioned to consider it an option when with a woman.

docstrange @SweetSpiced more work than they are worth. It’s sex, not a camping trip, lol

docstrange @RavenQuince you give control when you receive oral sex, men seem to be generally ok with that

RavenQuince @docstrange You’ve got a point about oral sex. You do give up some control there (And oh boy, do I like taking it then!)

SweetSpiced @docstrange But – the different sensations might prove even better – or just different

OnxStSyr @SweetSpiced and @docstrange I think there’s a far greater social stigma attached to sex toys for males which might explain much of it

docstrange @OnxStSyr can you imagine a guy posting that ‘toy x’ is better than a woman? I can’t.

OnxStSyr @docstrangethese days it’s almost expected a woman will have at least one toy, but if a man has a pocket pussy he’s a perverte loser

OnxStSyr Speaking of male sex toys, I really need to crank some reviews out

SweetSpiced @docstrange But – the different sensations might prove even better – or just different

docstrange @SweetSpiced possible, but you have to wonder why men use phone sex far more than women, and vice versa with toys.

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RavenQuince I know of only one man (@namelesschaos) doing sex toy reviews. Any oher fellas out there doing them with regularity?

@sylvanus @mydesire

sylvanus @RavenQuince none i would recommend

RavenQuince @sylvanus Well, of course I know that you’ve done some reviews. But, it’s not something that you emphasize.

sylvanus @RavenQuince are there that many male toys?

RavenQuince @sylvanus There are more and more every day. Compare to a few years ago. There are LOTS more. And good quality.

sylvanus @RavenQuince there just isn’t a lot of variety. Masturbation sleeves…prostate plugs

RavenQuince @sylvanus That much I’ll give you. Cock rings. Cock locks. Why are there no nipple toys geared to men?

sylvanus @RavenQuince toys are generally reserved for lonely people. Couples using them is actually abnormal.

RavenQuince @sylvanus Abnormal? Perhaps, atypical. They’re really that unusual in couples? I wouldn’t have thought so. Wish @freddyandeddy could comment.

sylvanus @RavenQuince i was the first man to use a toy and tongue on @mydesire

mydesire @RavenQuince it’s not very normal at all for couples to use toys. Otherwise @freddyandeddy wouldn’t need to educate.

mydesire @RavenQuince in fact when we tell people we are kinky they follow up with “oh yeah? Do you use toys?”

RavenQuince @mydesire Wow. I truly had no clue that it was not more mainstream. How dull for the rest of the population! (counting blessings AGAIN!)

mydesire @RavenQuince everyone I have ever talked to not in the blogger circuit has no idea what’s out there and are stunned when I talk about it.

mydesire @RavenQuince while I was manning the store for @freddyandeddy, most people who walked in there were coming in for the 1st time.

mydesire @RavenQuince many women buying their first toy at the age of 50. We are a lucky crowd indeed and have much knowledge to spread

mydesire @RavenQuince Spartacus makes very neutral packaging. At least the clamps I got were.

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RavenQuince I know of only one man (@namelesschaos) doing sex toy reviews. Any oher fellas out there doing them with regularity?

@MetisBlack

MetisBlack @RavenQuince we were approached by another. I’ll find his name later

MetisBlack @RavenQuince It’s Avery Dragon http://averydragon.blogspot.com/

RavenQuince@MetisBlack Thank you. I’ll check it out. As a manufacturer, do you wish there were more male reviewers? They seem to be tiny in number.

MetisBlack @RavenQuince of course but you have to realize you bloggers are really the first wave of grass roots reviews. Your pretty darn new

RavenQuince @MetisBlack For myself, I’m new to this scene since Jan. So for me, it already seems really well established. Hadn’t thought of it as new.

MetisBlack @RavenQuince 2 years old… so it’s all virgin territory. Before Babeland had reveiws by employees and GV had articles but really it’s new

RavenQuince @MetisBlack Well, in the big picture, 2 years is very new. To a newbie like me, I wonder if there’s room for more. I see a need for men, tho

MetisBlack @RavenQuince I first read reviews of Vixen by Anne Semens who was hired by Vixen then to write about them. That was when we were 3

MetisBlack @RavenQuince It will be interesting to see who continues after college and who makes it a job like mommy bloggers

MetisBlack @RavenQuince @sylvanus There are quite a lot of nipple clamps geared towards men. Both Spartacus and M2M do complete lines. Mostly gay.

MetisBlack @RavenQuince @sylvanus I don’t think your atypical I think that your totally the typical and no one is talking about it.

RavenQuince @MetisBlack I wonder how neutral packaging for clamps would go over. Take out the only for women and gays stigma, if you get my drift.

MetisBlack @RavenQuince @sylvanus also male nipples and female nipples differ on size- both companies gear made for men

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RavenQuince I know of only one man (@namelesschaos) doing sex toy reviews. Any oher fellas out there doing them with regularity?

@MissKissThis

MissKissThis @RavenQuince Also, I think part of the reason for the lack of male reviewers has to do with how woman tend to research more, leading to..

MissKissThis @RavenQuince …them finding sex toy reviews and becomming involved. Not sure if men tend to research sex toys as much as women.

RavenQuince @MissKissThis They seem to have a different attitude towards them, for sure.

RavenQuince @MissKissThis Not sure of your orientation, but have you ever used a male toy with partner? (Plug, cock ring, sleeve, etc.) Good/not good?

MissKissThis @RavenQuince I used couples toys long before I ever used a sex toy solo, but I’m not sure how common that is.

MissKissThis @RavenQuince Plugs and sleeves get a lot of use in this house! The only cock ring we use often is a simple stainless steel band.

RavenQuince @MissKissThis I’m curious, do you use the sleeve in couples play?

MissKissThis @RavenQuince Sometimes, mostly just as a quasi-handjob. Fleshlights and sleeves are much more fun to me than lubey, sore hands.

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Interestingly, this discussion revealed that @mydesire @MetisBlack and myself all had our first vibrators when we were 17 or 18 years  old. In all of our cases they were acquired for the purpose of of using them with our boyfriends. Did this early exploration of toys and couple play set the stage for being open sexual beings in adulthood? Or was it a byproduct of already embracing acceptance of our sexuality that would then lead us to being open?

Lastly, please to let me know if you know of any men who are primarily sex toy reviewers, regardless of their sexual orientation.

Dangerous Lilly’s Contest: Win an Njoy Pure Wand!

(Yes, I know, another contest entry. I’m sorry, but LOOK, it’s an Njoy! How can I resist?!? It’s so magnificent it has its own orgasmic aura. See?)

Lilly, of DangerousLilly.com, is giving away an Njoy Pure Wand courtesy of EdenFantasys! The Pure Wand is a high-quality stainless steel double-ended dildo for either G-spot stimulation or prostate stimulation. It is 24 ounces of solid medical grade stainless steel, and polished to a mirror shine. Lilly loves her Pure Wand and wants to spread the love to one lucky winner!

To enter the contest just visit her blog to find out the rules and entry methods. You can enter even if you don’t have a blog, it’s easy! The contest deadline is September 16th, 2009, at Midnight Eastern Standard Time.

Babeland Summer Love Contest

(Yes, it’s another contest entry.)

I know it doesn’t make for great sexy time reading, but have I mentioned how much I’m loving toys with my man right now? Unless someone out there wants to BUY me $500 worth of toys from Babeland, I have no alternative but to post my wish list here as the contest requires. Or become independently wealthy so that I could just buy every last toy I desire. And more

Babeland Summer Fun Contest

My Wish List (max $500 – Bingo! Right on the money!)

Eroscillator $145 It looks like a steam punk electric toothbrush, but I hear it gives mind blowing orgasms.

Pure Wand $108 It is a gorgeous piece of steel that triggers gushing g-spot orgasms, so of course I want it.

Pure Plug $75 This is my plug of choice: material, weight, size, shape, handle, all perfectly designed.

Under The Bed Restraints $55 I need a faster way for my husband to tie me up when the mood strikes.

Mia $65 Work will never be the same with a USB powered pleasure object.

Smart Balls $28 The thought of wearing these and having their little weights gently rattling around inside me sounds amazing!

Blossom Sleeve $24 I’d love to try this on my husband who hasn’t yet tried a sleeve, and this one got great reviews on Babeland.com.

If you want to have a shot at winning your own $500 wish list from Babeland.com, the Summer Love Contest runs until August 31st to get your entry in. Good luck!